true acts of love

01 Dec 2006 5:24

Our lives improve only when we take chances
and the first and most difficult risk we can
take is to be honest with ourselves.
~Walter Anderson

The best gift we can give ourselves and others is freedom. Recognizing that love is not something that can ever be forced or obligated; that who we are and what we need are too important to deny; and that the happiness we all so desperately need can only come from a life lived in harmony with our true identities. No matter how much we may wish things were different, we cannot forcibly contort another human being into being someone they are not and expect them to be happy and love us for it.

In this season of kindness and gift giving, I do not write this from any desire to hurt but instead because I want the hurting to stop. I have never desired to be a part of hurting and have done my best over time to speak up for a willingness to face the truth and to act accordingly in kindness instead of a blind hatred or bitter desire to get back. The greatest acts of love come from a desire to let others have what is best for them, not necessarily what we would desire for ourselves. I cannot face the idea of going through yet another few weeks of what should be a time of love and see it torn apart once again by such a needless denial of reality.

I too, once stood in the same shoes. I tried to force someone to be who he no longer was and no longer could ever be. I blamed him, I blamed myself, I was filled with anger. Anger is such a destructive emotion. It hurts the one who holds onto it most of all. You rage and rage and then you’re exhausted and then it comes back and you rage some more. And then one day, you find you can let go and that hateful hurtful person you had become goes away and you learn there is life after letting go. And you wonder why you screamed and held onto something dead for so long when there is so much life out there waiting to be lived. Peace, my friends. Because you are all my friends. You may think I hate you but I don’t. I just want us all to have the freedom to be who we are and be happy. Including you.

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